She’s strong But she’s exhausted

Most days, us moms don’t stop.From late nights to early mornings, the tasks become more and more. We take on many titles daily; cook, professional cleaner, maid, psychologist, intervention officer, nurse, professional problem solver, entrepreneur, and wellness advisor.We actually are responsible for a real tiny human beings, and to keep them alive too!How many times in a day do you get to sit and relax?Like honestly?That micro moment when I get to sit and breath and enjoy my hot coffee. That moment when it’s all quiet.This is bliss. Sitting and watching TV, the silent calmness in the house is something that only happens in the night(…most nights).Look forward and see my girls beautiful blonde locks flow and think how lucky I am she looks just like me.Rewind the clock literally to yesterday morning when all four older kids were doing the mad dash out the door because the bus was coming done the road.All four kids running around and saying: Where’s my backpack?  Where’s is my lunch kit? Wasn’t there more pasta left? I didn’t get a granola bar in my lunch kit?? Can you gel my hair? Ugh Julia pulled my hair mom!!And it continues into the later day.’Mom! Julia just spit in my face!’ Joseph shouts out as we are stopped for gas. Fast forward to the days challenges all over again.Motherhood is tough.Actually it seems impossible most days.But somehow each day, we rise up and serve our family to the best of our abilities.And we do it each day, whether sick, exhausted, worn out and broken.We do it in all conditions. Why is it that no matter what you do and how much you do of it, you always can do more?Usually when the stomach flu comes around our house I am barely getting past my spout of the illness, and here I am scrubbing puke out of the carpet and washing 5 loads of laundry.9 years ago I met my husband Joe who was a single dad of 3 amazing kids. 8 year old Twin boys, Austin and Ethen, and 3 year old Kira.9 years ago from the day I met them I became their mom. To keep a long story short for this one, their birth mom simply decided to not be in their lives one day. As their new mom I made it a point and mission that I would never talk bad about her(especially in front of the kids) because I have truly had the blessings of them making me a mom.Don’t get me wrong, I am the most protective mother bear you will meet, and those are our cubs and not one will ever hurt them again. I took on these confused and unsure children who truly knew what it was like to not trust someone, and hugged them every night, and made sure they knew I wasn’t going anywhere.Have they ever said, ” Your not my mom ! I am not listening to you!? “They actually haven’t ever said that to me. I expected it to happen and waited for that day, but it never came.Fast forward to raising twins who are almost 17, Kira who will be 12 and totally pre-teening🙈, Joseph who is 7, and Julia who is 4.8 years later ,my life is captivatingly chaotic.Where does the time go.From teenagers who just passed drivers ed, with upcoming jobs and girlfriends, I can’t believe how fast life has gone.The little boys the I met who were so timid and unsure about the future are growing up to become young men. I love that they have true compassion for others, and I get compliments often of how well behaved they are for teenagers.I have a teenage girl who loves sports and kicks it at football 🏈, and totally is taking after me in the sports department. Here and I have stuck to each other like glue since the day I met her. She my first little girl. 💕Joseph is truly like his dad and gets into everything. He has a heart of gold and loves to cuddle. We have been on the go with our little spit fire since the day he was born. I think he actually keeps all of us on our toes. Earlier this year he was diagnosed with ADHD and it has truly been a challenge in the parenting department. I felt so alone and didn’t know how to be his parent because I simply kept thinking I was doing something wrong with him.But I wasn’t.I just simply didn’t understand what he could possibly be going through with all of his impulses and actions. I always summed it up to, ‘ Oh he’s just a boy, and he’s busy’. He is actually very caring and so creative.And then there is Julia. She bold and sassy. She can be an angel one minute and change the next. She is the youngest of 5 and totally holds her own. Blond hair and blue eyes just like her momma.But after having Joseph I was stressing a little about having another spunky crazy kid like Joseph.But she has this special way of keeping me grounded and calming me down when her brother gets me all in a knot 😆🤦‍♀️But in all seriousness Fellow mommas, I am exhausted.You are exhausted.We are all exhausted.So I want to give all of you a pat on the back and say way to go.Way to go:💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms who had 30+ hour labours and stretch marks to prove it.💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms who will get up 8 times in a night and come out feeling like a zombie in your days.💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms(and dads) who have taken kids on as their own. You may not be the same DNA but you truly are family.💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms who forget to pack lunches and sign the agenda for the third day in a row, or cram your child’s brain with a last minute spelling test review that morning.💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms who have gone through the unthinkable and lost a child, my heart breaks for you. I pray for you to have healing and comfort in the love that comes from your memories.💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms, who don’t ever pee alone 🙈😂💁🏼‍♀️All of the woman that cannot have children, I pray for you and hope that God blesses you in many ways.💁🏼‍♀️All of you moms that’s feel like you want to strangle your children(figuratively speaking of course)because of the bad decision they just made, and then hugging them to death and telling them that you love them 10 times to assure them that you really do.I truly take something that my mom said to me a few years ago and hold onto that. I was having a really tough day and called my mom, and after a few moments of calming me down she said this.”Before you know it they will be all grown up. In a blink of an eye you will wish that they were the screaming baby’s, loud toddlers and annoying teenagers for one more moment. There is always a last of something they do. So embrace it, be this doesn’t last forever and you will wish it back down the road.”Parenting is impossible, but we sure kick ass at doing it and for what’s its worth?I am totally winging it too💁🏼‍♀️❤️Christina

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